If your child is being bullied

There are a number of practical things you can do if you are worried about your child or if you believe that your child is being bullied. Remember CRI. Confront, Record, Inform .

Buy your child a diary today. A diary is evidence !

Ask your child to tell the bully to STOP. Ensure your child keeps a diary, particularly if he/she finds it difficult to talk about the bullying. This is evidence. Now that your child has informed you, you need to take some positive steps to address the situation.

Document everything yourself too. Keep a diary. Put your concerns in writing to the school. Do not be tempted to enter into a discussion or meeting with a school representative if you are emotionally distressed. Document your concerns and/or arrange for someone to accompany you. If you believe the school is hiding behind their Anti-Bullying Policy, escalate your concerns to the Trustee's of the School or the local authority. Put your concerns in writing and keep a photocopy. Speak to your local MP too if the matter is sufficiently serious or if you believe there is a culture of bullying in that particular school. Inform the Police if you believe your child, or another child, is in danger.

Most of all, remember...the most important person here is your child. Ensure s/he receives counselling or medical help if required. Observe their behavior and if you think they are acting out of character, seek immediate assistance. Call your GP today.

Seek professional assistance at every opportunity.

We may be able to refer you to a Family Law Solicitor or a Solicitor specialising in The Harassment Act.

                    Young people with sen.

 

Research suggests that children with disabilities/Special Educational Needs (SEN) might be 
particularly vulnerable to bullying. Here are some reasons why:
Bullying often happens when other         children see a child with SEN as being ‘different’ –

perhaps because they are doing different work, or are seen to have difficulties, or because 
they find it hard to make friends or join in play activities
Children with SEN may be seen as ‘easy targets’ because they can be made to get into 
trouble or do things that are inappropriate. They may then be unable or reluctant to explain 
to the teacher what is happening.
Children with SEN may have low self-esteem, and be desperate to make friends. Other 
children may offer ‘friendship’ with the specific intention to mislead. This can mean that the 
child with SEN can easily be exploited or fall into a ‘victim’ role. They may also return to 
situations that other children would avoid.
Children with SEN may not realise that it is OK to say ‘no’ to some people who tell them 
what to do. (In this case it is children, but they should also be able to say ‘no’ to some 
adults).
Some children with SEN may lack confidence and may be more easily hurt or upset by 
things that many children might shrug off or not notice. 
Other children may notice that they can make a child with SEN get into trouble by doing 
things that adults won’t notice (like staring).
Some children with SEN may believe other children’s threats literally.
School policies may require that children who have been bullied give a clear account of what 
happened – with times and dates. This may be difficult for a child with a learning or 
communication disability. 
Teachers do not always realise that the behaviour of a child with special needs is a result of
being bullied.

Why Kids Bully

Kids bully for a variety of reasons. Sometimes they pick on kids because they need a victim — someone who seems emotionally or physically weaker, or just acts or appears different in some way — to feel more important, popular, or in control. Although some bullies are bigger or stronger than their victims, that's not always the case.

Sometimes kids torment others because that's the way they've been treated. They may think their behavior is normal because they come from families or other settings where everyone regularly gets angry and shouts or calls each other names. Some popular TV shows even seem to promote meanness — people are "voted off," shunned, or ridiculed for their appearance or lack of talent.

 

Helping Kids

If your child tells you about being bullied, listen calmly and offer comfort and support. Kids are often reluctant to tell adults about bullying because they feel embarrassed and ashamed that it's happening, or worry that their parents will be disappointed, upset, angry, or reactive.

Sometimes kids feel like it's their own fault, that if they looked or acted differently it wouldn't be happening. Sometimes they're scared that if the bully finds out that they told, it will get worse. Others are worried that their parents won't believe them or do anything about it. Or kids worry that their parents will urge them to fight back when they're scared to.

Praise your child for doing the right thing by talking to you about it. Remind your child that he or she isn't alone — a lot of people get bullied at some point. Emphasize that it's the bully who is behaving badly — not your child. Reassure your child that you will figure out what to do about it together.

Let someone at school (the principal, school nurse, or a counselor or teacher) know about the situation. They are often in a position to monitor and take steps to prevent further problems.

Because the term "bullying" might be used to describe such a wide range of situations, there's no one-size-fits all approach. What is advisable in one situation may not be appropriate in another. Many factors — such as the age of the kids involved, the severity of the situation, and the specific type of bullying behaviors — will help determine the best course of action.

Take it seriously if you hear that the bullying will get worse if the bully finds out that your child told or if threats of physical harm are involved. Sometimes it's useful to approach the bully's parents.(air caution if you do) But in most cases, teachers or counselors are the best ones to contact first. If you've tried those methods and still want to speak to the bullying child's parents, it's best to do so in a context where a school official, such as a counselor, can mediate.

Most schools have bullying policies and anti-bullying programs.

Restoring Confidence

Dealing with bullying can erode a child's confidence. To help restore it, encourage your kids to spend time with friends who have a positive influence. Participation in clubs, sports, or other enjoyable activities builds strength and friendships.

Provide a listening ear about difficult situations, but encourage your kids to also tell you about the good parts of their day, and listen equally attentively. Make sure they know you believe in them and that you'll do what you can to address any bullying that occurs.

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